I was in Inverness a few weeks ago shopping, more depressing when you haven't got much to spend.
I suddenly saw this woman, behaving like a bull in a china shop. Her temper looked awful, and she knocked a few things down. She was dragging her child with her.
The child was screaming I was in the shop for a while before, I did not hear any kid screaming whilst looking around, and when I heard I saw this woman dragging the boy.
Her face looked completely ugly, her temper shone right through it. The kid looked about 3 or 4 years old. I can tell he was screaming more with her behaviour, bad tempered and pulling her along with his jacket.
I wanted to stand in front of her and get her to stop.
"You are not making the situation any better by dragging your son and acting as if you are a bull in a china shop".
"let the kid go, if he has been annoying or if he takes tantrums fine, leave him to take tantrums, dragging him and storming out isn't going to help, it's making it worse".
But I didn't, in fact seeing that, did upset me. Her behaviour made the whole situation worse. Her reaction was appalling and it did not help at all.
She looked ugly, bad tempered, crabby early twenties mother. She was someone who obviously shouldn't have had children.
Sometimes, I can understand why people split up. If I was living with that, I would quickly run off with the kid.
She just looked awful.
Now I can understand some children are bloody well annoying, but there is a way to handle the situation. Loosing your temper does not help matters. I do not have children myself. But it doesn't take Einstein to know how what is wrong.
Now this is the bit, where everyone will write and complain. I am not against smacking a child. The problem with the government, he can't see the fine line between discipline and abuse.
A warning to the child would be the second step. First, would be asking him to behave. If not, I would spank on the bum.
I do not agree with hitting a child any other place than the bum, thigh, arm or hands.
I remember in Glasgow, I hit the roof, and it wasn't just me who was shocked. This woman dragged this boy out of Macdonald and, banging him against the glass, then hit him a few times on the head. I hit the roof. It brings back memories for me.
I couldn't help myself, I suddenly without thinking about it, jumped in, and started shouting at the mother. To me that's abuse and, there is just no need for it. I wanted to grab her and start smacking her in the head and, see how she feels. It really did upset me and, it wasn't just me who felt that way.
Believe there is a fine line. If mothers don't know the difference, they shouldn't have children. I am sure if we all think logically or rationally, a spank on the bum does not harm, except to the kids pride. The child gets embarrassed.
Recently, lately, we have new neighbours. There were putting bins on our side of the street, so I went to ask them to put bins out side their gate, not ours. No one was in one house, so I went over to the other one. I was completely shocked what I saw.
It was lashing down with rain, pouring, I got soaked walking just 30 feet across. This young child was sitting in a buggy, no cover, left outside the door in the pouring rain. His feet was soaked, the body suit the kid had on, was soaked, I was appalled. The cover of the buggy just covered the boys face. I was disgusted. Nobody was watching the boy, the door was shut, and it looked as if the kid was abandoned.
So I knocked on the door, to mention the bins. I actually was looking at the time of my mobile when I was at the door, because I had to meet someone. So I waited, waited, waited, and thought no one was in. Looked at my mobile, it was 5 minutes waiting there. I could not leave the boy, then all of a sudden I saw the girl open the door and I mentioned about the bins. She said this really stupid comment which was bull,
'there was no room outside our gates?. I mentioned they do not go outside our gate. She said okay, went back into the house, and the kid was still there, outside getting drenched. I tried to push the buggy near the door, to give him a bit of shelter, but it wasn't much at all, the child looked soaked.
I stood at the fence, still no sign, of the child being moved. I was making faces at the small boy whilst outside, to put a smile on his face.
So, what would you do? Guess what I done, don't know social number, but I phoned the police station and, mentioned this to the receptionist. She was not too bad on the phone, but as I said on one of my stories, the word 'pronto' isn't in their vocabulary.
I actually stood at the face, watching the child getting soaked. She finally came out and I said to her,
"Your child is completely soaked", and all she done was shrug her shoulders. I was fuming, I would have love to tie her to a buggy, and leave it open for her to completely soaked, see how she likes it. She walked off.
When I started to walk down the street stairs, I looked at my mobile. I was shocked, over 15 minutes that child sat outside uncovered in the pouring rain. I bet she only came, because I think she saw me standing at the fence watching the child, the window of her house faces the fence. It does upset me to see this woman, irresponsible looking after a child. She didn't even look bothered. Some people really do need a baseball hit over their head.
I want to know where is the social worker here, probably picking on some poor parent who has done nothing really wrong. If you look at the news of child abuse, it says it all. I honestly feel, some of the public would be better at the job, that the social workers themselves. Do we not think so?
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